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How to Deal With Toxic People Without Losing Yourself

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  There comes a point in some relationships when the biggest question is no longer: “How do I change this person?” It becomes: “How do I protect myself without becoming someone I am not?” Because dealing with toxic people can change you. You may become quieter. More suspicious. More defensive. More anxious. You may start over explaining everything. You may lose confidence in your own decisions. You may become so busy managing somebody else’s moods that you stop noticing your own. And sometimes, without realising it, you start behaving in ways that do not even feel like you. This is why dealing with toxic people is not only about protecting yourself from them. It is also about protecting yourself from what the situation is turning you into. First, Stop Trying to Make Them Understand Everything This was one of the hardest things for me to understand. We often think: If I explain it properly, they will understand. If I stay calm, they will understand. If I give one more example, they ...
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How to Tell If Someone Is Toxic or You’re Just Overreacting

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  How to Tell If Someone Is Toxic or You’re Just Overreacting There is a very confusing stage in some relationships when you stop asking: “Why is this person treating me like this?” and start asking: “Am I the problem?” Maybe I am too sensitive. Maybe I misunderstood. Maybe I expected too much. Maybe I should have stayed quiet. Maybe I overreacted. Maybe I am the difficult one. And slowly, without even realising it, you stop questioning their behaviour and start questioning yourself. That, for me, is one of the most damaging parts of dealing with a toxic person. Not always the argument. Not always the insult. Sometimes it is simply the confusion they leave behind. Because toxic people are not always obviously cruel. Some are charming. Some are loving. Some are extremely professional. Some are respected by everyone around them. Some know exactly when to smile, when to apologise and when to make you look like the unreasonable one. That is why recognising toxicity is not always easy. ...
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What Millennials Can Learn From Gen Z: 5 Life Lessons I Wish We Knew Earlier

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  What I Have Learnt from Gen Z Being a Millennial Every generation thinks the next one is a little too much. Too loud. Too sensitive. Too casual. Too impatient. Too rebellious. And maybe every younger generation looks at the older one and quietly wonders: Why did you tolerate so much? I am a millennial, and the more I observe Gen Z, the more I realise something uncomfortable. We spent a lot of our lives trying to adjust. They are spending theirs asking why they should. And perhaps that is one of the biggest differences between us. Before I talk about what I have learnt from them, let me explain briefly who we are talking about. Millennials are generally the generation born roughly between the early 1980s and mid-1990s. Gen Z came after us, roughly from the late 1990s to the early 2010s. We grew up in two very different worlds. Millennials still remember a childhood before smartphones, social media, instant messaging and constant internet access. Gen Z practically grew up with tech...
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Don’t Wait Until the Final Burnout

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  Don’t Wait Until the Final Burnout 1. Burnout Rarely Arrives Without Warning Burnout does not always begin with a breakdown. Sometimes it begins with small things. You wake up after eight hours of sleep but still feel tired. You become irritated when someone asks you a simple question. You stop replying to messages because even typing “I am fine” feels exhausting. You lose interest in things you once enjoyed. You continue doing everything expected of you, but inside, you feel nothing. You tell yourself: It is just a busy week. I only need one good night’s sleep. Everyone is tired. Why am I making such a big issue out of it? So, you ignore the signs. But here is the harsh truth: your body and mind will keep whispering for some time. If you refuse to listen, eventually they may start screaming. Please do not wait for that final scream. 2. What Is Burnout? 2.1 The Official Meaning The World Health Organization describes burnout as a result of chronic workplace stress that has not be...
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Why Women Feel Resentment in Their 40s

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Why Women Feel Resentment in Their 40s Recently, I was reading the comments on my social media page. Hundreds of women had shared their thoughts, and many of them were in their forties. Their words were different, but the pain behind them sounded almost the same. One woman wrote that she had raised three children. She left her career when it was at its peak because her family needed her. For years, her days revolved around school runs, meals, homework, illnesses, birthdays and everyone else's needs. Now her children are going to school and becoming a little more independent. The house is quieter. She finally has some time for herself but instead of feeling free, she feels lonely and full of resentment. She looks back and feels that she has achieved nothing in her life. Reading this did not surprise me even a bit. Because behind many homes, many successful husbands and many well-raised children, there is often a woman whose dreams were quietly placed on a shelf. Nobody asked her to...
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Success comes to those who keep their feet on the ground

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  If You Want to Touch the Sky, Keep Your Feet on the Ground We often look at successful people and admire the heights they have reached. We see their fame, achievements, wealth and recognition. But we rarely notice the values that helped them remain steady while climbing towards success. Reaching the sky is surely an achievement. But keeping your feet on the ground after reaching there is a greater one. The Legends Who Remained Grounded Jamshedji Tata dreamed of building industries that could transform India. His vision was not limited to earning money or creating a business empire. He believed that business should also improve the lives of workers and contribute to society. He achieved extraordinary success, yet his purpose remained larger than himself. He showed us that real success is not measured only by how much wealth we collect. It is also measured by how many lives become better because we existed. Then we have Dr. A.P.J. Abdul Kalam—a boy from a simple family who rose to ...
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My Motivation Is Not Your Motivation

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  My Motivation Is Not Your Motivation Have you ever looked at someone and wondered, “How can they remain so motivated?” And then, quietly, you questioned yourself… “Why does this goal not excite me the way it excites everyone else?” Perhaps there is nothing wrong with you. Perhaps the answer is simply this: My motivation is not your motivation. We are all moved by different things. For someone, it is money. For another, it is fame. For some, it is love, respect, freedom or security. And for someone else, the biggest motivation may be proving to themselves that they can still do it. There is no single motivation that works for everyone. What makes one person wake up with excitement may mean absolutely nothing to another. That does not make either of them wrong. It simply makes them human. Motivation Changes as We Change What motivates me today may not motivate you. But there is another truth we often forget: What motivated me ten years ago may not motivate me today either. We keep ...
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