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Sometimes, after taking care of everyone in the family, we look at ourselves and wonder…when was the last time I did something only for me? Family responsibilities never really end. There is always another meal to prepare, another room to clean, another school assignment to check, another bill to pay or someone waiting for our attention. We keep moving from one responsibility to another, believing that taking care of ourselves can wait. But for how long? Self-care is not selfishness. It is the fuel that keeps us going. STOP WAITING FOR FREE TIME Many of us think we will take care of ourselves when we get some free time. Believe me, that “free time” may never arrive unless we intentionally create it. You do not need an entire day at a spa or an expensive holiday. Sometimes, twenty peaceful minutes with a cup of tea, a short walk, a good book or simply sitting quietly can refresh your mind. Start small…but start. SHARE THE RESPONSIBILITIES A family is a team, not a one-person army. Discu...

PPD- Post Partum Depression.  This word might be new to some people however it doesn't deny the fact this has been here forever. Women who suffer sadness, fatigue (mental and physical) and trauma after delivery usually slip into this. There are endless reasons to this. * traumatizing experience in labor room. * keeping lots of hopes from partner. * no help with handling a new born. * feeling out of shape due to pregnancy. * not getting proper nutritional meals. * stress of being a perfect mother.  * haunting taunts and negative feedbacks from society.  * financial instability. * being stuck at home, unable to pursue career goals. * more dependent kids at home seeking mother's attention.  * no social life post delivery. * issues in Marital life. * non-supportive in-laws. * sleep deprived  and so on....every women can have their own personal reason apart from these causing depression. Ironically they don't even know they are into one. The first step to my survival...

  We live in a world where men and women can never be treated equally. No matter how much hue and cry we make about equality rights, women suffer around the world noticed or unnoticed. In a male dominant society, women are treated as punching bags to show power or to release frustration. This is not the story of only Asian women. WHO reports the endless number of cases every year on domestic violence around the world. Only difference is, the government takes this heinous act seriously in few countries while the others just sit back and don't try to poke their nose in internal matters of a household.  Most cases go unreported due to family pressure, life threats, children's future or because of women not being financially stable. Women are so used to it that they don't even notice that something is wrong in being hit by your partner. The society plays a huge role in brain washing females since their childhood that they are dependent upon their spouse's mercy while males ...

How do you treat someone who recently got fractured or injured or burnt? That's right....with utmost care and right kind of medical help. Physical injuries like this are much easier to notice while it's not true for injuries our soul has. We live in a society where we feel so connected yet so disconnected.  The social networking sites makes you believe that everyone on your friend list is available to you....at least if they are ONLINE. However the truth is out.... the very moment you actually need someone to hug or cuddle. They say the world is on their palms while they cannot touch anything with their finger tip except their screens. People are more lonely, more depressed and more unhappy in real and it becomes hard to recognize a person with depression.  This person can be anyone....your partner, parent, child, colleague, neighbor or a close friend.  The person you hang out with every week...the person who passes a smile to you in office every single day....the person ...

We have been married from last 10 years and like any other marriage we have sustained through lows and highs of this institution. As they say opposite attracts, my husband was exactly opposite of what I was. These differences looked cute, in the beginning, not really cute in the middle and ended in 'why are you like this?' We all go through this phase when your partner seems to be from other world....not ready to understand you. Some of us can not tolerate the strange behavior which wasn't strange during first few years and break their marriage only to repent and realize... he/she wasn't that bad. However some lose all hopes of reconciliation, still living together just like tracks of train....parallel to each other...never meeting in the end....because of the responsibility of kids on their tracks just like compartments.  I was in the second category until one day I carefully observed my husband and looked for what all he have got...I was astonished....thinking this gu...

 I am not really political types though I keep an eye on what's happening around me. With social media on your finger tips...you don't really have to take the pain of typing and opening a current affairs page. It's like a river of all the latest updates in and around the world which is flowing right through your sitting area....thanks to the idiot box and media houses.  Before I continue, you must know that I don't support any particular party.  Thankfully my parents educated me enough that I can see and judge situations for myself. Plus I come from a farmers family and I am proud of that. I didn't make a data base research while writing this article but the facts are so simple and realistic that any person with dumbest brain can calculate the risks of having a wrong person in power.  Do you know how many farmers commit suicide in India? Just google it....I did....and got this result and I was not really shocked. The so called govt. Stopped collecting data of dead f...