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  You’re Allowed to Outgrow the Version of You That Kept Everyone Happy There comes a point in life when being “the easy one” starts to feel… exhausting. The one who understands everyone. The one who adjusts. The one who says, “It’s okay,” even when it isn’t. The one who keeps quiet because speaking up might create tension. The one who changes plans, swallows disappointment, forgives quickly, explains endlessly, and somehow always finds a way to make things easier for everybody else. People may even praise you for it. You’re so understanding. You never create problems. You always think about everyone. And for a while, you might wear those words like compliments. Until one day you realise something uncomfortable: Everyone is comfortable with you… except you. And maybe that is when you begin to change. Not dramatically. Not overnight. Just quietly. You start saying no. You stop explaining every decision. You notice how tired you are after conversations where you constantly have to s...

  CLAIM YOURSELF AGAIN! There are days when you are present everywhere, except with yourself. You wake up and the day begins before you are ready. Someone needs breakfast. Someone needs an answer. There is a message to reply to, a task waiting, a room to clean, a deadline to meet, a family member to care for. And slowly, without even realizing it, you disappear from your own life . You are still doing everything. Still smiling. Still saying, “I’m okay.” But somewhere inside, you know you are tired in a way that sleep alone cannot fix. Sometimes the answer is not to become stronger. Sometimes you simply need to claim yourself again . Not the perfect version of you. Not the productive version. Not the version everybody expects. Just you . When Everything Feels Too Much When the mind becomes overloaded, even small things can feel heavy. You may feel irritated without knowing why. You may want silence but feel guilty for wanting it. You may sit among people you love and still feel stra...

Sometimes, after taking care of everyone in the family, we look at ourselves and wonder…when was the last time I did something only for me? Family responsibilities never really end. There is always another meal to prepare, another room to clean, another school assignment to check, another bill to pay or someone waiting for our attention. We keep moving from one responsibility to another, believing that taking care of ourselves can wait. But for how long? Self-care is not selfishness. It is the fuel that keeps us going. STOP WAITING FOR FREE TIME Many of us think we will take care of ourselves when we get some free time. Believe me, that “free time” may never arrive unless we intentionally create it. You do not need an entire day at a spa or an expensive holiday. Sometimes, twenty peaceful minutes with a cup of tea, a short walk, a good book or simply sitting quietly can refresh your mind. Start small…but start. SHARE THE RESPONSIBILITIES A family is a team, not a one-person army. Discu...

PPD- Post Partum Depression.  This word might be new to some people however it doesn't deny the fact this has been here forever. Women who suffer sadness, fatigue (mental and physical) and trauma after delivery usually slip into this. There are endless reasons to this. * traumatizing experience in labor room. * keeping lots of hopes from partner. * no help with handling a new born. * feeling out of shape due to pregnancy. * not getting proper nutritional meals. * stress of being a perfect mother.  * haunting taunts and negative feedbacks from society.  * financial instability. * being stuck at home, unable to pursue career goals. * more dependent kids at home seeking mother's attention.  * no social life post delivery. * issues in Marital life. * non-supportive in-laws. * sleep deprived  and so on....every women can have their own personal reason apart from these causing depression. Ironically they don't even know they are into one. The first step to my survival...

  We live in a world where men and women can never be treated equally. No matter how much hue and cry we make about equality rights, women suffer around the world noticed or unnoticed. In a male dominant society, women are treated as punching bags to show power or to release frustration. This is not the story of only Asian women. WHO reports the endless number of cases every year on domestic violence around the world. Only difference is, the government takes this heinous act seriously in few countries while the others just sit back and don't try to poke their nose in internal matters of a household.  Most cases go unreported due to family pressure, life threats, children's future or because of women not being financially stable. Women are so used to it that they don't even notice that something is wrong in being hit by your partner. The society plays a huge role in brain washing females since their childhood that they are dependent upon their spouse's mercy while males ...

How do you treat someone who recently got fractured or injured or burnt? That's right....with utmost care and right kind of medical help. Physical injuries like this are much easier to notice while it's not true for injuries our soul has. We live in a society where we feel so connected yet so disconnected.  The social networking sites makes you believe that everyone on your friend list is available to you....at least if they are ONLINE. However the truth is out.... the very moment you actually need someone to hug or cuddle. They say the world is on their palms while they cannot touch anything with their finger tip except their screens. People are more lonely, more depressed and more unhappy in real and it becomes hard to recognize a person with depression.  This person can be anyone....your partner, parent, child, colleague, neighbor or a close friend.  The person you hang out with every week...the person who passes a smile to you in office every single day....the person ...