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  How to Tell If Someone Is Toxic or You’re Just Overreacting There is a very confusing stage in some relationships when you stop asking: “Why is this person treating me like this?” and start asking: “Am I the problem?” Maybe I am too sensitive. Maybe I misunderstood. Maybe I expected too much. Maybe I should have stayed quiet. Maybe I overreacted. Maybe I am the difficult one. And slowly, without even realising it, you stop questioning their behaviour and start questioning yourself. That, for me, is one of the most damaging parts of dealing with a toxic person. Not always the argument. Not always the insult. Sometimes it is simply the confusion they leave behind. Because toxic people are not always obviously cruel. Some are charming. Some are loving. Some are extremely professional. Some are respected by everyone around them. Some know exactly when to smile, when to apologise and when to make you look like the unreasonable one. That is why recognising toxicity is not always easy. ...

Overthinking: What If Your Mind Is Trying to Protect You? What if the thing you're overthinking about never happens? And what if it does? And what if it happens differently? And what if you should have said something else? And what if you made the wrong decision? And what if…? Welcome to the exhausting world of overthinking . Sometimes one small thought becomes a whole movie in your head. You create conversations that haven't happened. You prepare for problems that may never come. You replay conversations that are already over. You imagine the worst-case scenario and then emotionally experience it as though it has already happened. But here's the question: What is all this thinking actually changing? The Worst-Case Scenario Trap Imagine you send someone a message. They don't reply. At first, it's just a message without a reply. Then your mind starts: Maybe they're upset with me. Did I say something wrong? Maybe they don't want to talk t...